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பால்நிலைச் சமத்துவ நீதிக்கான ஆண்களுடன் செயலாற்றும் கூட்டணி (MenEngage Alliance), இலங்கையில் பால்நிலைச் சமத்துவத்திற்காக ஆண்கள் மற்றும் ஆண்பிள்ளைகளுடன் இணைந்து செயலாற்றும் சமூக மாற்றத்திற்கான வலையமைப்பாகும். கடந்த சில வாரங்களாக வெளிவந்த சிறுவர் பாலியல் துஸ்பிரயோகங்கள், பாலியல் சுரண்டல் சம்பவங்கள் மற்றும் பணியிடங்களில் இடம்பெறும் துன்புறுத்தல்கள் தொடர்பாக எமது கடுமையான கவலையைத் தெரிவித்துக் கொள்கின்றோம். இவ்வாறான பாலியல் வன்முறைகள், பாலியல் துன்புறுத்தல்கள் மற்றும் அச்சமூட்டும் சம்பவங்கள் தொடர்பாக எமது கண்டத்தையும் தெரிவித்துக் கொள்கின்றோம். அண்மைக் காலத்தில் #MeToo (நானும் ஒருவர் இயக்கத்தின் ) குற்றச்சாட்டுக்களின் கீழ் இலங்கையில் ஊடகங்கள் மற்றும் செய்தி அறைகளில் இடம்பெறும் பாலியல் துன்புறுத்தல்கள் தொல்லைகள் பற்றி வெளிகொணரப்பட்டிருந்தது. அத்துடன் 15 வயது சிறுமியொருவர் பாலியல் வியாபாரத்திற்காகப் பயன்படுத்தப்பட்டமை மற்றும் 16 வயதுடைய சிறுமியொருவரின் மரணத்திற்குக் காரணமாக அமைந்த பாலியல் துஸ்பிரயோகம் உள்ளிட்ட விமர்சனங்களை வெளிக்கொண்டு வந்திருந்தது. இவ்வாறான சம்பவங்களுக்கு நாம் ஒவ்வொரு தனிநபரும் குற்றவாளிகளும் பொறுப்புக் கூற வேண்டியதுடன், இவற்றின் அடிப்படைக் காரணிகளைக் கண்டறிந்து அவற்றுக்கு தீர்வு காணல் மற்றும் அர்த்தமுள்ள சமூகம், கட்டமைப்பு மற்றும் கொள்கை ரீதியான விடயங்களை மாற்றுவதற்கு ஊக்குவித்தல் பால்நிலைச் சமத்துவத்துவக் குறிக்கோள்களுக்கு ஏற்புடையதாக அமையும்.

பெண்களுக்கும் பெண் பிள்ளைகளுக்கும் எதிரான வன்முறைகளைத் தடுப்பதற்காக சட்டங்களை வகுப்பதில் இலங்கை குறிப்பிடத்தக்களவு அடைவுகள் அடைந்துள்ள போதிலும், இலங்கையில் பால்நிலையை அடிப்படையாகக் கொண்ட வன்முறைகள் இன்றும் அதிகரிக்கும் தன்மை மிகவும் கவலைக்குரிய விடயமாகவுள்ளது. ஆணை முதன்மைப்படுத்தும் சமூக கலாச்சார பொருளாதார அரசியல (patriarchal) நடைமுறைகள் மற்றும் நம்பிக்கைகளின் காரணமாக பெண்களுக்கும், பெண் பிள்ளைகளுக்கும் எதிரான வன்முறைகள் இயல்பு நிலைமையாவதற்கு ஒரு காரணமாக உள்ளது. மேலும், வீட்டிலும், பாடசாலையிலும் பிரதான ஊடகங்கள் வாயிலாகவும் ஆண்மைத்துவத்தை வரையறுத்துக் கற்பிக்கும் விதங்கள் மற்றும் சமூக வலைத்தளங்கள் ஊடாக எடுத்துரைத்து மீளக் கற்றுக் கொள்ளும் விதங்கள் மிகவும் கவலைக்குரியதாகவுள்ளது. இலங்கையில் கூடுதலான சட்டங்கள் மற்றும் நிர்வாக நிறுவனங்களில் ஆண்மையை நடைமுறைப்படுத்தும் விதமும் அவற்றை ஊக்குவிக்கும் விதங்கள் பற்றியும் நாம் அறிந்துள்ளோம். இது ஆண்கள், பெண்கள் மற்றும் வேறு பாலினத் தனித்துவ அடையாளங்களுக்கிடையே அதிகாரம் மற்றும் சிறப்புரிமைகளின் சமத்துவமற்ற நிலைமைக்குக் காரணமாக அமைகின்றது. அதற்கும் மேலதிகமாக, மேற்குறிப்பிட்டுள்ள வன்முறைச் சம்பவங்களுக்குத் தண்டனை கிடைக்காமை அவ்வாறான அதிகார சமநிலையற்ற கலாச்சாரத்தை உருவாக்குகின்றது.

தொடர்சியாக இடம்பெற்று வரும் இவ்வாறான சம்பவங்களுடன் அண்மைய சம்பவங்கள் மக்களையும் ஊடகங்களையும் ஆத்திரமூட்டும் விடயங்களாக அமைந்துள்ளதுடன், இவற்றிற்கு எதிராக ஆண்கள் உள்ளிட்ட பல்வேறு தரப்பினர்கள் காத்திரமான நடவடிக்கைகளை மேற்கொள்ளுமாறு கோரியிருந்தனர். சமூக அநீதிகள், அனைத்துவித பாலியல் மற்றும் பால்நிலையை அடிப்படையாகக் கொண்ட வன்முறைகளுக்கு தீர்வு காணும் போது ஆண்கள் மற்றும் ஆண்பிள்ளைகள் நட்பு வட்டமாக நடவடிக்கைகளை மேற்கொள்ள முடியுமென இலங்கை பால்நிலைச் சமத்துவ நீதிக்கான ஆண்களுடன் செயலாற்றும் கூட்டணி நம்புகின்றது. ஆண்கள் மற்றும் ஆண்பிள்ளைகளுடன் செலாற்றும் போது,

• எங்களைச் சுற்றியுள்ளவர்களின் பல்வகைத்தன்மைகளுக்கும் உரிமைகளுக்கும் மதிப்பளிக்கவும்
• மதிப்பு மற்றும் சமத்துவத்தின் அடிப்படையில் தொடர்புகளைக் கட்டியெழுப்பவும்
• எமது சமூகத்திலும், ஆண்கள் நட்பு வட்டங்களிலும் வன்முறைகளுக்கு எதிராகக் குரல் கொடுக்கவும்
• விருப்பமாயின் உதவிகளைப் பெற்றுக் கொள்வதற்கு வலுவூட்டவும்
• கூட்டாகத் தீர்மானம் எடுப்பதை உறுதி செய்யவும்
• அதிகாரத்தைப் பகிர்ந்து கொள்ளவும்

கூட்டணியாக, ஆண்மைத்துவ வன்முறைகளுக்கு சவால் விடுப்பதற்கும் பால்நிலை சமத்துவத்துவம் மற்றும் அதனுடன் தொடர்புடைய அதிகாரங்களின் சமநிலையற்ற தன்மையை நிவர்த்தி செய்வதற்கும் நாங்கள் முன்வந்துள்ளோம். எமது செயற்பாடுகள் கூட்டு முயற்சிகளின் கோட்பாடுகளுக்கமைவாகவும், மற்றவர்களிடையே வெளிப்படைத்தன்மை, பாரபட்சம் காட்டாமை போன்றவற்றை மையமாகக் கொண்டுள்ளதுடன், பெண்கள் மற்றும் பெண்பிள்ளைகளுக்கு எதிராக இடம்பெறுகின்ற வன்முறைகளைத் தடுப்பதற்கும், செயற்படுவதற்கும் ஆண்கள் நட்பு வட்டத்துடன் இணைந்து செயலாற்றும் போது இவ்வாறான விழுமியங்களைப் பேணிப் பாதுகாப்பதை உறுதி பூணுகின்றோம். எமது கூட்டு நோக்கமானது, ஆணை முதன்மைப்படுத்தும் சமூக கலாச்சார பொருளாதார அரசியல் (patriarchal) முறைமை மற்றும் நடைமுறைகளை தகர்த்தெறிவதும், எமது நடைமுறைகள் மற்றும் நம்பிக்கைகள் பற்றி உள்ளார்ந்த ரீதியாகப் பார்த்தல், களநிலைமைகளின் உண்மைத்தன்மை பற்றிக் கவனத்தைச் செலுத்துதல், இவ்வாறான துர்நடத்தைகள் இடம்பெறும் போது அதுபற்றி கவனம் செலுத்துதல், கட்டமைப்பு ரீதியான மாற்றங்களை ஏற்படுத்துவதற்கு தொடர்ச்சியான உந்துதலை ஏற்படுத்துதல் போன்றனவாகும். அதிகாரம் மற்றும் சமநிலையற்ற கட்டமைப்புக்களால் தமது வாழ்க்கைக்கும் பாதிப்பு ஏற்படுவதை ஆண்கள் சிந்திக்க வேண்டியதுடன், அதன் மூலம் அவர்களுடன் தொடர்புபட்டுள்ள பெண்கள் மற்றும் பெண் பிள்ளைகளின் வாழ்விலும் பாதிப்பு ஏற்படுகின்றது.

இலங்கையில் பால்நிலைச் சமத்துவ நீதிக்கான ஆண்களுடன் செயலாற்றும் கூட்டணி, இக்கவலைக்குரிய விடயத்திற்குத் தீர்வு காண்பதற்காக மிகவும் சிறந்த நட்பு வட்டங்கள் மற்றும் பங்காளர்களாக செயலாற்றுமாறு அனைத்து ஆண்கள் மற்றும் ஆண்பிள்ளைகளை இத்தருணத்தில் வேண்டி நிற்கின்றது.

ஆகவே, தனிநபர்கள், ஆண்கள், ஆண் பிள்ளைகள், தந்தையர்கள், சகோதரர்கள், துணைவர், நண்பர்கள், காதலர்கள், பங்காளர்கள், தலைவர்கள், உத்தியோகத்தர்கள், சிவில் சமூகச் செயற்பாட்டாளர்கள், கொள்கை வகுப்பாளர்கள், தீர்மானம் எடுப்பவர்கள், சேவை வழங்குனர்கள், சமூக மட்டத் தலைவர்கள் அனைவரும் தமது தொழில் வாழ்க்கையிலும் தனிப்பட்ட வாழ்க்கையிலும் பலதரப்பட்ட வகிபாங்குகளில் தமது ஆண்களின் பலத்தையும், தமது அதிகாரத்தையும் சிறப்புரிமைகளையும் மீள்பரிசீலனை செய்வதினூடாக உண்மையான நடவடிக்கைகளை மேற்கொண்டு “மேலதிகமாக எதையாவது செய்வோம்” எனும் தொனிப்பொருளில் நாங்கள் மற்றவர்களுடன் அணி திரள்வதற்கு அழைக்கின்றோம். அதிகமான ஆண்கள் தங்களுடைய பிள்ளைகளுக்காக அர்ப்பணிப்புக்களை மேற்கொள்வதுடன், அவர்கள் எந்தவொரு பிள்ளையையும் அவர்கள்;; பால்நிலையைக் கருத்தில் கொள்ளாது, வன்முறைகளுக்கு அச்சப்படாமல் எந்தச் சூழலிலும் சுதந்திரமாக வாழ்வதற்கு இடமளிக்கும் உலகில் வளர்வதற்கு விருப்புகின்றார்கள் என்பதில் ஐயமில்லை.
வன்முறை கலாச்சாரத்தை மாற்றுவதற்காக கீழ்வரும் நடவடிக்கைகளை மேற்கொள்வதனூடாக முடியுமென நாம் நம்புகின்றோம்.

  • பார்வையாளர்களாக இருப்பதை நிறுத்துவோம் – வன்முறையாளர்களைப் பெயர் குறிப்பிட்டுக் கூறவும் ஆணை முதன்மைப்படுத்தும் சமூக கலாச்சார பொருளாதார அரசியல் (patriarchal) முறைமைக்கு சவால் விடுப்பதற்கு நேர்நிறைவான நடவடிக்கைகளை மேற்கொள்ளவும்.
  • நீங்கள் அது பற்றிக் கவனம் செலுத்துவதாகக் கூறுங்கள்
  • அவருடைய வன்முறை அவரின் துணை, அவரின் பிள்ளைகள் மற்றும் உறவுகளுக்கு செய்யும் தீங்கு என்பதை அவருக்கு நினைவூட்டுதல்
  • வீட்டு வன்முறை சட்டத்திற்கு முரணானது எனவும் அது தண்டனைக்குரிய குற்றம் எனவும் தெளிவுபடுத்தவும்
  • தேவையாயின், வன்முறைகளைத் தடுப்பதற்காக தொழில்வாண்மை ரீதியான உதவிகளை பெற்றுக் கொள்வதற்கும், தொடர்ந்து அவருடன் இணைந்து பின்னூட்டலை மேற்கொள்வதற்கும் ஊக்குவித்தல்.

2. பாலியல் நடத்தை மற்றும் பாலியல் தனித்துவங்களைக் கவனத்தில் கொள்ளாது அனைவருக்கும் பணியிடத்தில் பாதுகாப்பு மற்றும் மதிப்புமிக்க சூழலை உருவாக்குவதற்கான முயற்சிகளுடன் தலையிடுங்கள். பணியிடம் என்பது பெண்கள் மற்றும் வேறு பாலியல் தனித்துவங்கள் கொண்ட நபர்கள் தொடர்ச்சியாக பாரபட்சம் காட்டல், துன்புறுத்தல்கள், அவமதிப்பு மற்றும் பாதுகாப்பற்ற இடமாகவுள்ளது.

  • பணியிடத்தில் பாலியல் துன்புறுத்தல்கள் தொடர்பாக கொள்கைகளை மாற்றுவதற்கும் அல்லது நடத்தைகளை மாற்றுவதற்கும் ஆண்கள் சவால் விடுப்பதன் மூலம் பாதுகாப்பானதும் மதிப்பு மிகுந்த பணியிடத்தை உருவாக்குவதற்கான முயற்சிகளில் நட்பு வட்டங்களாக ஆண்களுக்கு முக்கியமான வகிபாங்கு வகிக்க முடியும்.
  • எமது சமூகத்தில், ஒரே தொழிலில் பணியாற்றும் பெண்கள்;, ஆண்களை விடக் குறைவான சம்பளத்தையே பெறுகின்றனர். உயரிய பால்நிலைச் சமத்துவத்திற்கான போராட்டங்களில் நட்பு வட்டங்களிலுள்ளவர்கள் ஆண்களுக்குச் சமமான சம்பளத்தை பெண்களுக்கும் பெற்றுக் கொடுப்பதற்காக ஒத்துழைப்பது வழங்குவது ஒரு சக்திவாய்ந்த முறையாகும்.

3. எமது தொடர்புகளில் பாதிப்புக்களை ஏற்படுத்தும் மனப்பாங்குகள், நம்பிக்கைகள் மற்றும் நடத்தைகளில், குறிப்பாக புரிதல் மற்றும் சம்மதங்களுடன் எவ்வாறு ஆண்மைத்துவம் பிரதிபலிக்கப்படுகின்றது என விமர்சன ரீதியாக புரியச் செய்தல்.

4. ஆண் பிள்ளைகள் மற்றும் இளைஞர்களுக்கு முன்மாதிரியானவர்களாக இருத்தல். பால்நிலை சமத்துவத்தின் மீது நம்பிக்கை கொண்டவர்களும் அதற்காக குரல் கொடுக்கும் ஆண்கள் தமது சமூகத்திலுள்ள ஆண் பிள்ளைகளுக்கும் ஆண்களுக்கும் முன்மாதிரியாக இருக்க முடியும். ஆண்களுக்கு முற்கூட்டியே கற்பித்தல் மற்றும் எடுத்துக்காட்டல்கள் தேவைப்படுவதுடன், தொடர்புகளில் வன்முறைகளுக்கு இடமில்லை என்பதையும் அவர்களுக்கு தொடர்ந்து எடுத்துக்கூற வேண்டும்.

5. சமூகம் “இயல்பானது” எனக் கருதும் விடயங்களுக்குப் பெண்கள் அல்லது பால்நிலைத் தனித்து அடையாளங்கள் கொண்டவர்கள் மற்றும்ஃ அல்லது பால்நிலை தன்மைகள் கொண்டவர்களை அவமதிக்கும் வகையில் நடந்து கொள்வதற்கு நண்பர்கள், குடும்ப அங்கத்தவர்களால் மேற்கொள்ளப்படும் அழுத்தங்களுக்கு எதிர்ப்புத் தெரிவித்தல் வேண்டும்.

ஆண்களுக்கு ஆண் நண்பர்களுடன் மேற்கொள்ளக் கூடிய விடயமாக, சமூகத்தில் மதிப்பு மிகுந்த, நெகிழ்வான வகிபாங்குகளுடன் கூடிய ஆண்களால் சமூகத்தில் அனைவருக்கும் நன்மை கிடைக்கும் எனும் கருத்தை மேம்படுத்த வேண்டும். ஆண்மைத்துவத்துவத்திற்கு சவால் விடுக்கும் போது ஒருவருக்கொருவர் ஒத்துழைக்குமாறு நாங்கள் ஆண்களை அழைக்கின்றோம்.

6. அர்த்தமுள்ள நட்பு வட்டங்களாக ஒத்துழைப்புடனும் கூட்டுப் பொறுப்புடனும் அர்ப்பணிப்புடனும் செயலாற்றுதல். ஆண்கள் தங்களுடைய சமூகத்தில் இடம்பெறும் விடயங்கள் தொடர்பாகத் தெளிவு பெற வேண்டியதுடன், அவ்வாறான தொடர்ச்சியான முயற்சிகளுக்கு தமது பலம், நேரம் மற்றும் திறன்களை வழங்க வேண்டும். அவற்றில்,

  • ஆண்மைத்துவத்தை நிலைமாற்றுவதற்காக ஆண்கள் மற்றும் ஆண் பிள்ளைகளுடன் நேரடியாகச் செயலாற்றுவதற்கு எடுக்கும் முயற்சிகளுக்கு ஒத்துழைத்தல்
  • ஆண்மைத்துவத்தை நிலைமாற்றுவதற்காக பொது அரங்கில் சவால் விடுத்தல் அதாவது ஊடகங்கள் மற்றும் சமூக ஊடகங்கள் வாயிலாகவும் மேற்கொள்ளல். (உதாரணம்: பெண்களுக்கும் பெண் பிள்ளைகளுக்கும் எதிராக இடம்பெறும் வன்முறைகளுக்குக் கண்டனம் தெரிவிக்கும் வகையிலான ஆர்ப்பாட்டங்களில் கலந்து கொள்ளல்)
  • பெண்களுடைய உரிமைகளைக் கோரி செயலாற்றும் பெண்கள் அமைப்புக்கள் மற்றும் செயற்பாட்டு இயக்கங்களுக்கு நிதி திரட்டுவதற்கு உதவுதல்
  • தற்போது பெண்கள் மேற்கொண்டு வரும் நடவடிக்கைகளை குறைத்து மதிப்பிடாமல் அவர்களின் முயற்சிகளுக்கு பெண் நண்பர்களுடன் நட்பு வட்டங்களாக ஒத்துழைப்பு வழங்கல்.

7. நீதித்துறை மற்றும் அதிகாரிகளால் மேற்கொள்ளப்படும் நடவடிக்கைகளுக்கு அழுத்தம் கொடுத்தல். வன்முறைகளுக்கு ஆளாகியவர்கள் மற்றும் உயிர் பிழைத்தவர்கள் பொலிஸ் மற்றும் குற்றவியல் நீதித்துறை மீண்டும் மீண்டும் தோல்வி கண்டு வருகின்றது. நடவடிக்கைகளை மேற்கொள்வதற்காக ஆண்களை இணைத்துக் கொள்வது அவசியமாகும்,

  • அனைவருடைய பாதுகாப்பை உறுதி செய்யும் வகையில் அரசாங்கம் பொறுப்புக் கூறுவதற்கு வேண்டுகோள் விடுத்தல்
  • உயிர் பிழைத்தவர்கள் விருப்பமாயின் நீதிமன்றத்தை நாடலாம்
  • தேவையான சந்தர்ப்பங்களில் சேவை நாடல்களுக்கு உதவுதல்
  • பொலிஸ் மற்றும் நீதித்துறைக்கு அழுத்தம் கொடுப்பதன் மூலம் அவர்களின் பொறுப்புக் கூறலை நிலைநாட்டல்

8. பெண்கள், பெண் பிள்ளைகள் மற்றும் ஏனைய பால்நிலைத் தனித்துவங்கள் கொண்டவர்களுக்காக மதிப்பு மிகுந்த இணையவழியை உருவாக்கல் – இணையவழி மற்றும் மெய்நிகர் வழியாக சட்ட விரோதமாக பிரத்தியேகத் தகவல் திரட்டுதல், இணையவழி மூலமாக பிரத்தியேகத்திற்குப் பாதிப்பு ஏற்படல் மற்றும் இணைய வெளியில் மேற்கொள்ளப்படும் பாலியல் வன்முறைகள் உள்ளிட்ட தீமை பயக்கும் இணைய வெளிப் பயன்பாட்டால் டிஜிட்டல் பாதுகாப்பு சவால் மிக்கதாக மாறியுள்ளது.

பெண்களுக்கும், பெண் பிள்ளைகளுக்கும் எதிரான வன்முறைகளை தத்தமது தனிப்பட்ட பிரச்சினையாகப் பார்ப்பதற்கு அனைத்து ஆண்களையும் ஊக்குவித்தல் வேண்டும். எமது ஆணாதிக்க அதிகாரக் கட்டமைப்பில் தமது வகிபாங்குகளை ஆராய்வதற்கு ஆண்களை தூண்டுவிக்க வேண்டியதுடன், அநீதிகளைக் காணும் போது அவற்றுக்கு எதிராக நடவடிக்கை எடுப்பதற்கு முன்வர வேண்டும். ஒரு சில செயற்பாடுகள் மிகவும் முக்கியமானவையாகும். குறிப்பாக பால்நிலையை அடிப்படையாகக் கொண்ட வன்முறைச் சம்பங்கள் மத்தியில் அவர்களின் வகிபாங்குகளுடன் ஒப்பிடுகையில் “சிறந்த ஆண்” எனும் அர்த்தத்தை மிகவும் கீழ் மட்டத்தில் இடப்பட்டுள்ள சமூகத்தில் நாங்கள் வாழ்ந்து கொண்டிருக்கின்றோம். துஷ்பிரயோகங்கள் இடம்பெறும் இவ்வாறான மோசமான சூழலைப் புறக்கணிக்க விரும்பும் எவரும், அவர்கள் தங்களின் கண்டும் கானாமல் இருப்பாரென்றால் அவர் இலங்கையில் இருக்கும் இன்னொரு தொற்று நோய்க்கு நேரடியாக தனது பங்களிப்பை செய்பவராகவும் அதற்கான குற்றவாளியாகவும் வரலாற்றில் பதியப்படுவார் என்பதனையும் விமர்சன ரீதியாக சிந்திக்க வேண்டும்.

 

 

පිරිමින් සදහා දැන් ම ක්‍රියාත්මක විමට කෙරෙන ඇමතීම යි

ස්ත්‍රි පුරුෂ සමාජභාවිය යුක්තිය උදෙසා පිරිමින් සමග වැඩ කිරිමේ සංසදය (MenEngage Alliance), ශ්‍රී ලංකාව තුළ ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමානාත්මතාවය සඳහා පිරිමි සහ පිරිමි ළමුන් සමඟ කටයුතු කරන සමාජ ප්‍රගමනය නිර්මාණය කිරීමේ ජාලයක් ලෙස, පසුගිය සති කිහිපය තුළ දී හෙළිදරව් වූ ළමා ලිංගික අපයෝජන හා සූරාකෑමේ සිදුවීම් සහ රැකියා ස්ථානයේ ලිංගික හිංසන සිදුවීම් පිළිබඳ ව අපගේ බලවත් කණස්සල්ල පළ කරමු. මෙම ලිංගික ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වය, හිංසනය සහ තර්ජනාත්මක සිද්ධීන් අපි දැඩි ලෙස හෙළා දකිමු. මෑතකාලීන ව #MeToo ව්‍යාපාරය යටතේ ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ මාධ්‍ය අවකාශය තුළින් හා සහ ප්‍රවෘත්ති තුළින්, ජාවාරම් කෙරුණු අවුරුදු 15 ක දැරියක සහ 16 හැවිරිදි දැරියකගේ මරණයට හේතු වූ ලිංගික අපයෝජන ඇතුළු විවේචනාත්මක කරුණු දැක්වීම හරහා , ඒ එක් එක් අපරාධකරුවන් යුක්තිය ඉදිරියට ගෙනෙන අත් අතර ම, මෙම සිදුවීම්වලට තුඩුදුන් හේතු කාරණා හඳුනාගෙන ඒවාට පිළියම් යෙදීම සහ ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමානාත්මතාවයේ සමාජ පරමාදර්ශයන්ට අනුකූල අර්ථවත් සමාජ, පද්ධති සහ ප්‍රතිපත්ති වෙනස් වීම් ප්‍රවර්‍ධනය කිරීම මේ දැඩි අවශ්‍යතාව ඉස්මතුකරයි.

කාන්තාවන්ට හා ගැහැනු ළමයින්ට එරෙහි හිංසන සිදුවීම් මැඩපැවැත්වීම සඳහා නීති සම්පාදනය කිරීමේ දී ශ්‍රී ලංකාව ළඟා කරගෙන ඇති සැලකිය යුතු ප්‍රගතිය කුමක් වුවත්, ලංකාව තුළ ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමාජභාවය පදනම් කරගත් ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වයේ ව්‍යාප්තියේ ඉහළ යෑම බරපතල කණස්සල්ලට හේතුවකි. පීතෘමූලික පිළිවෙත් හා විශ්වාසයන් කාන්තාවන්ට හා ගැහැනු ළමයින්ට එරෙහි හිංසන සාමාන්‍යකරණය වීමට හේතුකාරක වී තිබේ. මීට අමතර ව, නිවසේ දී, පාසලේ දී සහ ප්‍රධාන ධාරාවේ මාධ්‍ය තුළින් පිරිමිකම නිර්වචනය කරන ආකාරය සහ සමාජ මාධ්‍ය තුළින් ප්‍රදර්ශනය කර ඒවා නැවත මනසට කාවද්දන ආකාරය ද බරපතල කණස්සල්ලට හේතු වී තිබේ. ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ බොහෝ නීතී හා පාලන ආයතන තුළ පුරුෂ මූලික පුරුෂාධිපත්‍යය ක්‍රියාත්මක වන බව හා ඒවා දිරිගැන්වෙන බව අප වටහාගත යුතු ය. මෙය පුරුෂයින්, කාන්තාවන් සහ වෙනත් ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමාජභාවීය සහ ලිංගික අනන්‍යතාවයන් ඇති අය අතර බලය සහ වරප්‍රසාද බෙදීයාමේ අසමතුලිතතාවයකට හේතු වේ. ඉහත ඉස්මතු කර ඇති හිංසනකාරී සිදුවීම් සඳහා බොහෝ විට දඬුවම් නොලබා ගැලවීයාමේ සංස්කෘතියක් බිහි කරන්නේ ද එවැනි බලයේ අසමතුලිතතාවයන් ය.

මෑත සිදුවීම් මහජනතාව සහ මාධ්‍ය කෝපයට පත් කර ඇති අතර පිරිමින් ද ඇතුළු බොහෝ පාර්ශවකරුවන් විසින් පියවර ගන්නා ලෙස නොයෙක් ඉල්ලීම් කර තිබේ. සමාජ අසාධාරණය සහ සියලු ආකාරයක ම ලිංගික හා ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමාජභාවය පදනම් කරගත් හිංසනයන්ට පිළියම් යෙදීමේ දී පිරිමින්ට හා පිරිමි ළමයින්ට පාර්ශවකරුවන් ලෙස කටයුතු කිරීමට ඇති හැකියාව ගැන MenEngage Alliance ශ්‍රී ලංකා එකමුතුව විශ්වාස කරයි. පිරිමින් සමඟ සිදුකරන අපගේ වැඩ කටයුතුවල දී පහත අවශ්‍යතාවන් ඉස්මතු කරයි,

● අප අවට සිටින අයගේ විවිධත්වයට හා අයිතීන්ට ගරු කිරීම
● ගෞරවය හා සමානාත්මතාවය මත සබඳතා ගොඩනඟා ගැනීම
● අපේ සමාජයේ සහ පිරිමින් කොටස්කරුවන් වන කණ්ඩායම් අතර ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වයට එරෙහි ව හඬනැගීම
● අවශ්‍ය විට උදව් ලබා ගැනීමට පුරුෂයින් සවිබල ගැන්වීම
● හවුලේ තීරණ ගැනීම
● සහ බලය බෙදා ගැනීම

සංසදයක් වශයෙන්, පිරිමිකම මත පදනම් වූ ප්‍රචණ්ඩකාරී ස්වරූපයන්ට අභියෝග කිරීමට සහ ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමාජභාවය හා සම්බන්ධ බල අසමානතාවයන් නිවැරදි කිරීමට අපි කැපවී සිටින්නෙමු. අපගේ වැඩ කටයුතු සහයෝගීතාවයේ මූලධර්ම, විනිවිදභාවය සහ වෙනස් කොට නොසැලකීම යන කරුණු මත පදනම් වී ඇති අතර කාන්තාවන්ට හා ගැහැනු ළමයින්ට එරෙහි හිංසනය වැළැක්වීමට සහ ඒවාට එරෙහි වීමට පිරිමි කොටස්කරුවන් සමඟ එක්ව ක්‍රියා කරන විට මෙම සාරධර්ම රකින බවට අපි පොරොන්දු වෙමු. අපගේ සාමූහික පරමාර්ථය නම් පුරුෂ මූලික ක්‍රම සහ භාවිතයන්ට අධෛර්‍යමත් කිරීම සහ අපගේ පුරුදු සහ විශ්වාසයන් දෙස ගැඹුරින් බැලීම, ප්‍රායෝගික තත්ත්‍වයන් කෙරෙහි අවධානය යොමු කිරීම, හිංසන සිදු වූ විට ඒ ගැන හඬ නැඟීම සහ ව්‍යුහාත්මක වෙනසට තුඩු දිය හැකි ආකාරයේ අඛණ්ඩ ශක්තියක් ගොඩනැගීම සඳහා කැපවීම යි. අසමානතාව හා බලය තුල ක්‍රියාත්මක වන ව්‍යුහයන් හරහා ඔවුන්ගේ ජීවිතවලට ද ඔවුන් සම්බන්ධකම් පවත්වන කාන්තාවන්ගේ හා ගැහැනු ළමයින්ගේ ජීවිතවලට ද හානි වන බව පිරිමින් තේරුම්ගත යුතු ය.

මෙම බරපතල ගැටලුව විසඳීම සඳහා වඩා හොඳ හවුල්කරුවන් විය හැක්කේ කෙසේ ද යන්න සහ ක්‍රියා කළ හැක්කේ කෙසේ ද යන්න ගැන සියලු ම පිරිමින් හා පිරිමි ළමුන් ඇමතීමට MenEngage Alliance ශ්‍රී ලංකා අපි මෙය අවස්ථාවක් කරගන්නෙමු.

ඒ නිසා, පිරිමින්, පිරිමි ළමයින්, පියවරුන්, සහෝදරයින්, සගයන්, මිතුරන්, පෙම්වතුන්, හවුල්කරුවන්, නායකයින්, නිලධාරීන්, සිවිල් සංවිධාන ක්‍රියාකාරීන්, ප්‍රතිපත්ති සම්පාදකයින්, තීරණ ගන්නන්, සේවා සපයන්නන්, ප්‍රජා නායකයින් වශයෙන් ඔවුන්ගේ පෞද්ගලික හා වෘත්තීය ජීවිතයේ විවිධ භූමිකාවන් තුළ තමන්ගේ පිරිමිකම, තමන්ගේ ම බලය සහ වරප්‍රසාද පිළිබඳ නැවත සිතීමෙන්, සැබෑ පියවර ගනිමින් “වැඩිපුර යමක් කිරීමට අප සමග පෙල ගැසෙන ලෙසත් අන් අයද ඒ සඳහා එක් කර ගන්නා ලෙසත් අප ඉල්ලා සිටිමු.

බොහෝ පිරිමින් තම දරුවන් වෙනුවෙන් කැපකිරීම් කරන බවත්, සෑම දරුවෙක්ම, ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ භාවය නොසලකා, හිංසනයට බිය නොවී සෑම පරිසරයක් තුළ ම නිදහසේ ජීවත් වීමට ඉඩ සලසන ලෝකයක හැදී වැඩෙනවා දකින්නට සෑම පිරිමියෙක්ම ඉතා කැමැත්තෙන් සිටින බවත් අප දැඩි සේ විශ්වාස කරමු.

ඒ අනුව, ප්‍රචණ්ඩකාරී සංස්කෘතිය වෙනස් කිරීම සඳහා පහත සඳහන් ක්‍රියාමාර්ග සියලුම පිරිමින්ට ගත හැකි යැයිo අපි විශ්වාස කරමු.

  1. නිහඬව පසෙකට වී බලා සිටින්නෙකු වීම නවත්වන්න. හිංසනය සිදු කරන අයට එරෙහි ව කතා කරන්න. පුරුෂ මූලික පුරුෂභාවයන්ට අභියෝග කිරීමට ධනාත්මක පියවර ගන්න.
  • ඔබ සැලකිලිමත් බව ඔහුට පවසන්න
  • ඔහුගේ ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වය හරහා ඔහුගේ සහකාරියට, ඔහුගේ දරුවන්ට සහ ඔහුගේ සම්බන්ධතාවන්ට වන හානිය ඔහුට තේරුම් කරදෙන්න.
  • ගෘහස්ථ හිංසනය නීතියට පටහැනි බවත් එය දඬුවම් ලැබිය හැකි ක්‍රියාවක් බවත් ඔහුට පවසන්න.
  • අවශ්‍ය නම්, ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වය නතර වන බවට වග බලා ගැනීම සඳහා වෘත්තීය උපකාර ලබා ගැනීමට දිරිමත් කිරීමෙන් සහ නිතර ම ඔහු පිළීබඳ පසු විපරම් කරන්න.

2. ලිංගික දිශානතිය සහ ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමාජභාවීය අනන්‍යතාවය නොසලකා සෑම කෙනෙකුට ම සේවා ස්ථානය ආරක්ෂිත හා ගෞරවනීය පරිසරයක් බවට පත් කිරීමේ උත්සාහයන්ට සම්බන්ධ වන්න. සේවා ස්ථාන බොහෝවිට කාන්තාවන් සහ වෙනත් ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමාජභාවයේ අනන්‍යතාවයන් ඇති පුද්ගලයින් නිතරම වෙනස් කොට සැලකීම්, හිරිහැර කිරීම් සහ අගෞරවයක් සහ අනාරක්ෂිත බවක් දැනෙන ස්ථාන ලෙස පවතී.

  • රැකියා ස්ථානයේ දී ලිංගික හිරිහැර පිළිබඳ ප්‍රතිපත්ති වෙනස් කිරීමට හෝ හැසිරීම් වෙනස් කිරීමට පිරිමින්ට අභියෝග කිරීම අතින් මෙන් ම සුරක්‍ෂිත හා ගෞරවනීය රැකියා ස්ථානයක් නිර්‍මාණය කිරීමේ ප්‍රයත්නයේ දී හවුල්කරුවන් ලෙස පිරිමින්ට වැදගත් කාර්යභාරයක් ඉටු කළ හැකි ය.
  • අපේ සමාජයේ, බොහෝ රැකියා කරන ස්ත්‍රීන් එම රැකියාව ම කරන පිරිමින්ට වඩා අඩු වැටුපක් ලබයි. ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමානාත්මතාවය සඳහා වන අරගලවල දී කාන්තාවන්ට හා හවුල්කරුවන් වීමට ඇති ප්‍රබල ක්‍රමයක් නම් පිරිමින් විසින් සමාන වැඩ සඳහා සමාන වැටුප් ක්‍රමයක් ගොඩනැගීමට සහය වීමයි.

3. අපේ සම්බන්ධතාවල හානිකර ආකල්ප, විශ්වාසයන් සහ හැසිරීම්වල දී විශේෂයෙන් අවබෝධය සහ කැමැත්තට ගරුකිරීමෙහි ලා පුරුෂ මූලික පිරිමිකම් පිළිබිඹු වන ආකාරය ගැන විවේචනාත්මක ව මෙනෙහි කරන්න.

4. පිරිමි ළමයින් හා තරුණයින් සඳහා ආදර්ශයක් වන්න. ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමානාත්මතාවය පිළිබඳ විශ්වාස කරන සහ පෙනී සිටින පිරිමින් තම ප්‍රජාවන්හි පිරිමි ළමයින්ට සහ පිරිමින්ට ප්‍රබල ආදර්ශයක් විය හැකි යි. පිරිමි ළමයින්ට කුඩා කල පටන් ම සම්බන්ධතාවයන් තුළ ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වයට ඉඩක් නොතිබිය යුතු බව ඉගැන්වීම සහ මඟ පෙන්වීම කිරීම අවශ්‍ය වන අතර ඒවා නිතර සිහිපත් කරදිය යුතු ය.

5. සමාජය ‘සාමාන්‍ය’ යැයි සලකන ගැහැනුන්ට අපහාස වෙන අන්දමේ හෝ ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ අනන්‍යතාවය සහ/හෝ ලිංගික දිශානතිය නොගැලපෙන ආකාරයෙන් කටයුතු කරන ලෙස මිතුරන්ගෙන් සහ පවුලේ අයගෙන් එල්ල වන පීඩනයට එරෙහි වන්න. ඔබේ මිතුරන් කාන්තාවන්ට අගෞරව වන අයුරින් ක්‍රියා කරන්නේ නම්, ඔවුන් පවසන දේ ගැන සිතා බලන ලෙස ඔවුන් අභියෝග කිරීම වැදගත් වන අතර හිංසනකාරී හැසිරීම්වලට සමාව දීමට හා සාධාරණීකරණය කිරීමට සංස්කෘතික හා ආගමික සාධක ඇතුළු කිසිදු හේතුවක් භාවිත කිරීමට ඉඩ නොතබන්න.

– පිරිමින්ට තම පිරිමි මිතුරන් සමඟ කළ හැකි එක් දෙයක් නම්, වැඩි ගෞරවයක් ඇති සහ පිරිමින්ට දැඩිබවින් අඩු වඩා නම්‍යශිලි භූමිකාවක් තුල ජීවත් විය හැකි සමාජයක් සැම දෙනාට ම වාසිදායක ය යන අදහස ප්‍රවර්‍ධනය කිරීම යි. පිරිමිකමේ හානිකර හැසිරීම් සහ ලක්ශණ අභියෝගයට ලක් කිරීමේ දී එකිනෙකාට සහයෝගය දක්වන මෙන් අපි පිරිමින්ගෙන් ඉල්ලා සිටිමු.

6. අර්ථවත් හවුල්කරුවන් ලෙස සහයදැක්වීමට සහ සහයෝගයෙන් ක්‍රියා කිරීමට කැප වී කටයුතු කරන්න. පිරිමින් තමන්ගේ ම ප්‍රජාව තුළ සිදුවෙමින් පවතින දේ පිළිබඳ ව දැනුවත් විය යුතු ඒ සඳහා මැදිහත් වීමට ගනු ලබන අඛණ්ඩ උත්සාහයන්ට තම ශක්තිය, කාලය සහ කුසලතා ලබා දිය යුතුය. මෙයට ඇතුළත් වන්නේ;

  • හානිකර පිරිමි හැසිරීම් වෙනස් කිරීම සඳහා පිරිමින් හා පිරිමි ළමයින් සමඟ ඍජු ව ම වැඩ කිරීමට දරන උත්සාහයන්ට සහාය වීම.
  • මාධ්‍ය හා සමාජ මාධ්‍ය ඇතුළු ප්‍රසිද්ධ අවකාශයේ හානිකර පිරිමි හැසිරීම්වලට සහ ඒවා ප්‍රවර්ධනය කරන අයට අභියෝග කිරීම. එනම්, කාන්තාවන්ට සහ ගැහැනු ළමයින්ට එරෙහි හිංසනය හෙළා දකින විරෝධතා වලට එක්වීම.
  • කාන්තා අයිතිවාසිකම් ඉල්ලා සිටින කාන්තා සුරැකුම් නිවාස සහ ක්‍රියාකාරික සංවිධාන සඳහා අරමුදල් රැස් කිරීමට උපකාර කිරීම
  • ඔවුන්ගේ උත්සාහය අවතක්සේරු නොකර දැනටමත් පියවර ගනිමින් සිටින කාන්තා මිතුරියන් හා එක් ව කටයුතු කරන්න.

7. නිසි පියවර ගැනීමට බලධාරීන් සහ අධිකරණ පද්ධතිය වෙත ඉල්ලීම් කරන්න/ බලපෑම් කරන්න. පොලිසිය සහ අපරාධ අධිකරණ පද්ධතිය නැවත නැවතත් ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වයේ වින්දිතයින් හා දිවි ගලවා ගත් අයගේ විශ්වාසය බිඳ හෙළමින් සිටී. පහත දෑ වෙනුවෙන් පියවර ගැනීම සඳහා පිරිමින් සම්බන්ධ වීම අත්‍යවශ්‍යයි,

  • සියලු දෙනාගේ ම ආරක්‍ෂාව සහ ආරක්‍ෂාව සහතික කිරීම සඳහා රජයට සිය වගකීම් ඉටු කරන ලෙස ඉල්ලා සිටීම,
  • ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වයකින් දිවි ගලවා ගත් අය ඔවුන්ගේ කැමැත්ත මත උසාවියට රැගෙන යාම,
  • අවශ්‍ය අවස්ථාවල දී සේවාවන් ලබා ගැනීමට ඔවුන්ට සහය දීම,
  • පොලීසියට සහ අධිකරණ පද්ධතියට වගකිව යුතු ලෙස ක්‍රියාත්මක වන ලෙසට බලපෑම් කිරීම

8. කාන්තාවන්, ගැහැනු ළමයින් සහ වෙනත් ලිංගික අනන්‍යතාවයන් ඇති පුද්ගලයින් සඳහා අන්තර්ජාලය තුළ ගෞරවනීය සබැඳි අවකාශයන් ඇති කිරීමට කැප වන්න. නීති විරෝධී ලෙස පුද්ගලික දත්ත එකතු කිරීම, පෞද්ගලිකත්‍වය උල්ලංඝනය කිරීම සහ සයිබර් ලිංගික හිංසනයේ යෙදීම ඇතුළු අන්තර්ජාල අවභාවිතයන් හේතුවෙන් ඩිජිටල් ආරක්‍ෂාව අභියෝගයක් වී ඇත.

කාන්තාවන්ට හා ගැහැනු ළමයින්ට එරෙහි හිංසනය පෞද්ගලික ගැටලුවක් ලෙස දැකීමට පටන් ගන්නා ලෙසට අපි සියලු පිරිමින් දිරිමත් කරමු. අපගේ පුරුෂ මූලික බල පද්ධතිය තුළ තමන්ගේ ම භූමිකාවන් දෙස නැවත බැලීමට පිරිමින් උනන්දු කරවිය යුතු අතර අයුක්තිය දකින විට එයට එරෙහි වීමට ක්‍රියාත්මක විය යුතු ය. එවැනි ක්‍රියාවන් ඉතා වැදගත් ය, අප ජීවත් වන්නේ ස්ත්‍රී පුරුෂ සමාජභාවය මත පදනම් වූ ප්‍රචණ්ඩකාරී සිද්ධීන් මධ්‍යයේ “යහපත් පිරිමියෙකු” වීමේ අර්ථය ඉතා පහත් සහ අඩු වටිනාකමක් යුතු මට්ටමක තබා ඇති සමාජයක යි. අපයෝජනයේ මෙම විෂම චක්‍ර නොසලකා හැරීමට තීරනය කරන ඕනෑ ම අයෙක්, ශ්‍රී ලංකාවේ පවතින තවත් වසංගතයක සක්‍රීය ක්‍රියාකරුවන් ලෙස සහ වැරදිකරුවන් ලෙස ඉතිහාසගත වනු ඇති අතර, ඔවුන්ගේ අක්‍රියතාවයේ ප්‍රතිවිපාක ගැන විවේචනාත්මක ව මෙනෙහි කළ යුතු ය.

A Call to Action For Men

A Call to Action For Men – by MenEngage Alliance Sri Lanka

The MenEngage Alliance, a social change network working with men and boys for gender equality in Sri Lanka, expresses our grave concern over the recent incidents of child sexual abuse and exploitation, and workplace sexual harassment that have been brought to light in the past weeks. We condemn these incidents of sexual violence, harassment, and intimidation in the strongest of terms. The recent #MeToo allegations including in Sri Lankan media spaces and newsrooms, the child sex trafficking of a 15-year-old girl, and the recent sexual abuse leading to the death of a 16-year-old girl among others, highlight the critical need to, while holding individual perpetrators accountable,  identify and address root causes and promote meaningful society, system and policy change, that is compatible with the ideals of a gender-equitable society.

Irrespective of the considerable progress that Sri Lanka has made in improving legislation to curb incidents of violence against women and girls, the widespread nature of gender-based violence in Sri Lanka continues to be a matter of serious concern. Patriarchal practices and beliefs have caused violence against women and girls to be normalized. Additionally, the ways in which masculinities are defined and taught at home, school and through mainstream media and showcased and re-learned through social media have also become serious concerns. We must also recognize that patriarchal masculinities[1] are practiced and encouraged in many legal and governing institutions in Sri Lanka. This leads to an imbalance of power and privilege between men, women and persons of other gender identities. It is such imbalances of power that often create a culture of impunity for incidents of violence, such as those highlighted above.

Recent incidents have caused public and media outrage and warrants a call to action by many stakeholders including men themselves. MenEngage Alliance Sri Lanka believes in the ability of men and boys to work as allies in addressing social injustice and all forms of sexual and gender-based violence. Our work with men and boys highlights the need to,

  • Respect the diversity and rights of those around us
  • Build relationships based on respect and equality
  • Speak out against violence in our society and among the groups that men are part of
  • Empower men to seek help if they so wish
  • Uphold shared decision making,
  • And shared power

As an alliance, we remain firm in our commitment to challenging violent versions of manhood and correct power inequalities related to gender. Our work is centred on the principles of collaboration, transparency and non-discrimination, among others and we promise to uphold these values as we mobilize partners and work together with male allies to take action against- and prevent violence against women and girls. Our collective goal is to disrupt patriarchal systems and practices and instill a strong commitment to look inward at our practices and beliefs, pay attention to ground realities, name and call out abuse when it happens and engage in building a continuous momentum that would result in structural change. Men should see that their own lives are damaged, too, by a system of power and inequality as it damages the lives of women and girls with whom they are in relationships.

At MenEngage Alliance Sri Lanka, we are taking this time to call all men and boys to reflect and act on how they can be better allies and step up to address this grave concern.

We, therefore, join others in our rallying call for men and boys to “do more” by taking actual steps to reflect on their manhood, their own power and privilege as individuals, fathers, brothers, colleagues, friends, lovers, partners, leaders, officers, CSO activists, policymakers, decision-makers, service providers, community leaders and through many diverse roles in their personal and professional lives. It is clear that many men make sacrifices for their children and want them to grow up in a world that offers all young people, regardless of their gender, the freedoms and opportunities to thrive in all environments without fear of violence.

We believe that the following actions can be taken by men to change cultures of violence.

  1. Stop being a bystander – name and call out those who abuse. Take positive action to challenge patriarchal masculinities.
  • Tell him you’re concerned.
  • Remind him of the damage his violence is doing to his partner, his children and his relationship.
  • Tell him that domestic violence is against the law and is a punishable act.
  • if required, encourage him to seek professional help and follow up with him frequently to make sure the violence stops.

    2. Get involved in efforts to make the workplace a safe and dignified environment for everyone, irrespective of their sexual orientation and gender identity. Workplaces continue to be places where women and people of other gender identities are often discriminated against, harassed and feel disrespected and unsafe.

  • Men can play an important role in being allies in efforts to create safe and dignified workplaces, both in terms of working to change policies on sexual harassment at the workplace or code of conduct as well as challenging men to change their behaviour.
  • In our society, in many areas of work women still earn less than men for doing the same work. A powerful way for men to be allies to women in struggles for greater gender equality is to support equal pay.

    3. Make critical reflection about how patriarchal masculinities are reflected in harmful attitudes, beliefs and behaviours within our relationships especially in terms of understanding and respecting consent.

    4. Be a role model for boys and young men. Men who believe in and stand for gender equity can be influential role models for boys and men in their communities. Men need to teach and show boys early, and teach them often, that there is no space for violence in a relationship.

    5. Resist the pressure from friends and family to act in ways that disrespect women or those people whose gender identity and/or sexual orientation do not conform to what society considers ‘normal’. If your friends act in ways that disrespect women, it is important that you challenge them to think about what they’re saying and not let them use any type of justification including cultural and religious reasons to excuse and justify violent behaviour. One thing that men can do with their male friends is to promote the idea that a society with greater respect and less rigid roles for men benefits all. We call on men to support each other in challenging harmful masculinities.

    6. Commit to supporting and acting in solidarity, as meaningful allies. Men must be aware of what is going on in their own communities and lend their energy, time, and skills to such ongoing issues. This includes;

  • Supporting efforts to work directly with boys and men on transforming harmful masculinities.
  • Challenging harmful masculinities publicly, including in the media and on social media. (i.e., joining marches against injustice and protests that condemn violence against women and girls;
  • Helping raise funds for women’s shelters and activist organizations demanding for women’s rights
  • Be allies to female friends who are already taking action without devaluing their efforts.7. Push for action by authorities and the justice system – the police and the criminal justice system are repeatedly failing victims and survivors of violence. It is essential that men get involved in taking action to,
  • Demand that the government meet its obligations to ensure the safety and security of all.
  • Accompanying survivors to court, if they so wish
  • Helping them access services when necessary,
  • Exerting pressure on the police and the justice system so that they are held accountable.

    8. Commit to foster dignified online spaces for women, girls and people of other gender identities – online. Digital safety has become a challenge due to the harmful use of online platforms including the illegal collection of personal data, online violations of privacy and engaging in cyber sexual violence.

We encourage all men to start seeing violence against women and girls as a personal issue. Men must be encouraged to examine their own roles within our patriarchal systems of power and pledge to step up when they witness injustice. Such actions are very important, especially considering that we live in a society that has set the bar very low for what it means to be a “good man” in relation to their role amid incidents of gender-based violence. Anyone who chooses to ignore these vicious cycles of abuse should be critically reflecting on the consequences of their inaction, as enablers of Sri Lanka’s shadow pandemic and are on the wrong side of history.

[1] Patriarchal masculinities refer to ideas about and practices of masculinity that emphasize the superiority of masculinity over femininity and the authority of men over women (Source: “Self-Learning Booklet: Understanding Masculinities and Violence Against Women and Girls,” UNWOMEN Training Center)

Webinar on Child Early and Forced Marriages (CEFM) and COVID-19

Webinar on Child Early and Forced Marriages (CEFM) and COVID-19
Challenges of dealing with CEFM during humanitarian crisis

03:30 pm (PKT) to 06:00 pm (PKT)
2nd October 2020

Zoom link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89033673244?pwd=Q09ldE1FazhrT1ZKc2RiVVZ3Ym1ydz09

Meeting ID: 890 3367 3244
Passcode: 902547

 

About the webinar:
This webinar is being held as part of the South Asian Virtual Conference on Prevention of Forced and Early Marriages during and post COVID-19.

Background:
Shirakat- Partnership for Development with the support MenEngage Alliance global and South Asia is organizing a digital conference on ‘Prevention of Forced and Early Marriages during and post COVID-19’. Child, early, and forced marriage are forms of GBV and violations of human rights. When girls marry young they often drop out of school, experience poor health outcomes, are less economically and agriculturally productive, thus restrain them to use their full potential for their wellbeing. Additionally, poverty, food insecurity, conflict and crisis, cultural traditions, and discrimination towards girls cause a child and forced marriages.

It has been reported in various researches that the ratio of CEFM surge in situations of crisis such as disasters, conflict, and pandemics. Similarly, the COVID-19 is likely to cause an increase in the number of early and forced marriages due to the economic recession and a significant decrease in economic opportunities and loss of employment. According to an estimate by UNICEF and UNWOMEN, coronavirus could put an extra 04 million girls at risk of early and forced marriage. The aim of this digital Conference is to develop strategies and deliberate on engaging men and boys to prevent Child Early and Forced Marriages in the humanitarian crisis in South Asia. The conference also aims to unpack the harmful masculinities which are hindering to curb the social evil early and forced marriages. Experts from other South Asian Countries and Pakistan will be invited digitally to share their perspectives, experiences, and help in developing the discourse on engaging men is pivotal to curtail this jeopardy.

Objectives of the webinar:
1. To preview the state of early and forced marriages in South Asia during COVID-19,
2. To identify factors linked to the outbreak of COVID-19 leading to an increase in early and forced marriages,
3. To deliberate on challenges of dealing with CEFM during the humanitarian crisis

SHADHIKA: DAWN Initiative to End Gender-Based Violence in U.P. India

This is a brief report of intervention being done to make the society gender equitable by four grass root level organizations i.e. Asian Bridge India, as a lead organization and Grameen Punarnirman SansathanGramya Sansathan, and Navjyoti Swavlamban Seva Sansathan are partner organizations. 

‘SHADHIKA DAWN’ initiative to End Gender-Based Violence, project having consistency with SDG 3 (Promote Gender Equality and Empower Women) and SDG 5 (Gender Equality) started in August 2019, implemented specifically in three villages named Nagepur, Ganeshpur and Benipur villages of Arajiline Block of Varanasi District in Uttar Pradesh, India. This project was primarily conceived to bring attitudinal and behavioral changes among adolescent boys and men including women and girls. Following are the impacts came out of mid-term evaluation conducted through focused group discussions and observation. 

Background: It was observed that in above mentioned selected villages out of the total marriages 40% are early marriage, the drop-rate of girls from school after primary education (class 5) is 25% and after junior high school (class 8) is about 50%, some incidences of maternal deaths have also been observed. According to the local police station total 38 cases of violence against women were registered in the police station in 2018, comprising rapes, domestic violence, sexual harassment, and dowry related violence and deaths. Women reports the problem of alcoholism among men is the leading cause of domestic violence. Though the rates of crimes against women are higher but most of them were unreported. Other gender based discrimination are son preferences leading to sex selective termination of pregnancy, restricted mobility of women and girls, unequal opportunity for women and girls with regards to their access to education, and employment, discrimination and harassment at schools, work spaces and public places and burden of contraception only on women are quite common manifestations of patriarchal social norms prevalent in those selected villages.

Goals of the project: 

The major focus of the project is (a) ending domestic violence in families and, (b) ending sexual harassment of girls and women in institutions, at work places and at public spaces. 

Strategies applied for this change project are organizing: regular meetings, training workshops, focused group discussions, exercises, games, puppet shows, street plays, wall writings, painting and essay writing competitions in schools, film shows, gender mapping, gender melas (fairs), and campaigns. 

The Constituencies for change are: 150 Boys of 10 to 17 years of age, 100 young men of 18 to 24 years of age, 100 Adult Men of 25 to 50 years of age, 150 Girls of 10 to 17 years of age and 150 Women of 18 to 49 years of age. The project also engages 75 major stake holders such as elected officials of local self-governance, political and religious leaders, media, police, judiciary, school teacher, DLSA, medical and para medical staff, ANMs. ASHAs.

Impact:

Among Adolescents: Intervention strategy of consistent and periodical meetings, training workshops, film screenings, gender games held during August 2019–March 2020, with adolescent boys and girls of 10-17 years, yielded noticeable changes in their understanding, attitude and up to certain extent in behavioral practices. More than 60% of boys were able to recognize gender discrimination and sexual harassment in their own homes and neighborhood. They gained understanding of sexual division of labor and its relation with hierarchies of power within household. Boys got to understand the negative repercussion of sexual harassment on girls’ schooling opportunity. Around 70% sampled girls became aware about the legal safeguards and provision available to them against domestic and other forms of violence. This increased understanding helped to change their attitude towards previously taken for granted issues of sexual division of labor, violence against girls/women and other socially sanctioned but discriminatory gender norms. 

Adolescents’ participation in weekly meeting and discussion groups increased significantly. They became vocal not only in discussion group meetings but around 10% of the girls reported that they have raised voices in their homes also. As an impact of this intervention boys have started to participate in household chores like 15% of boys started washing their own cloths and helped in cleaning at home. 25% boys reported that they stopped using slangs or abusive words which sexually target women. Young girls reported that now they feel less hesitant while talking to non-family members whom they meet in public spaces and resisted when someone passed lewd comments. Some of them even had shared opinion on the issues of their marriage and career with parents/elders in their families. 

Impact on Adult Men and Women: In pre-intervention survey, most of the young men denied that they had inflicted any form of gender based violence, as in patriarchal social structure several forms of behaviours /violence are not perceived as violence and discriminatory. Though women were unhappy about some of the treatment meted out to them but they also lacked understanding and thought of it as a personal rather than a serious and structural problem.  After sustained effort of education and training on these issues 60% of men have increased and better understanding about GBV and its’ subtle forms, sexual harassment inside and outside of home, sexual division of labour and women’s unpaid labour.     

Intervention had a noticeable difference among women also, now they not only know about the project but all other resources available to them as legal safeguards and how to access them. They have better understanding of women’s rights and GBV. All this increased access to knowledge led to change in their attitude regarding GBV however, younger women (under 30 years) showed more enthusiasm for more knowledge, information and willingness to change than their older counterparts. 

One noticeable change is the increased attendance in meeting and participation by men and women both. There were several instances reported when women raised their voice or resisted in the opposite situation like, when women went to exposure visit to Gramaya Sansthan, and got late to return, their husbands persistently asked question about their whereabouts, without being frightened women explained the importance of the visit to them and handled the situation properly.  

Among Gatekeepers: One of the important target groups of this intervention was gatekeepers of the local society, school teacher, auxiliary health workers ANMs, local religious leaders, local media and government officials like, village heads (Gram Pradhans) and local self-governance officials. All the gatekeepers’ understanding about GBV and sexual harassment has increased however, as anticipated, most noticeable gains were in teachers (80%) and least gain were reported among religious leaders (40%). All the gatekeepers’ participation in the interventions meetings has increased. Some of the school teachers improved on their gender discriminatory pedagogical practices and started adopting more gender inclusive ways of teaching. The issue of male vasectomy was discussed in meeting with young men and it forced some of the men to think and they inquired about it with ANM and health workers.     

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Ek Saath Campaign India

Ek Saath Abhiyan’ (to engage men and boys for active partnership to change gender discriminatory norms). Within the period of the year 2016 to 2019 more than four thousand intensive mobilization programs for engaging men and boys in 100 districts of 10 states with the alliance of 100+ community based organizations have been implemented so far. Target is to reach up to 50 lakh people in 15 states (UP, MP, Odisha, West Bengal, Jharkhand, Uttarakhand, Rajasthan, Maharashtra, Assam, Himachal Pradesh, Delhi, Gujarat, HP, Bihar, Chhattisgarh) with engaging 25000 Samanta Saathis and 250 mentors to be trained intensively within five years.

Man Ek Darpan Training Manual was developed for mentors of Ek Saath Campaign that is being implemented with young boys at grass root levels mostly in villages and urban communities. This manual is developed in Hindi and Bangla languages which is implemented in a very easy language and a practical manner. This manual covers following twenty topics: Concept of GenderBurden of WorkGender Based Division of WorkEquity and EqualityPrivileges and ProhibitionsAccess to Resources and ControlEqual Opportunity and ParticipationDomestic ViolenceProtection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005Sexual ExploitationSex Selective Termination of PregnancyAbusive Languages and Sexist JokesLaws related to Sexual HarassmentSocialization of MasculinityImpact of Masculinity on Men and WomenMasculinity and Social InstitutionsBiological Identity and DiversitySexual RightsRight to Choose of Companion and Sexual Rights and Related Myths.

FELICITATION OF MALE CHANGE MAKERS – EK SAATH CAMPAIGN

Samanta Saathis who successfully completed a year-long training under the Ek Saath National Campaign were felicitated in state-level adhiveshans or symposiums held from December 2019 onwards. The adhiveshans were occasions for the Samanta Saathis (the campaign’s male gender equality champions) to share their individual and community level stories of change, the challenges they face, and their learnings. They were accompanied by their mentors who are guiding and supporting them. 

Samanta Saathi Ranjan Shaw from West Bengal who is a student and also works as a tuition teacher, shared how after listening to the campaign’s audio drama training modules and holding discussions in his Ek Saath group he started feeling disturbed about the absence of girls and women from public places particularly from the many community level sports and activity clubs that are present across the state. “I took the initiative to ensure that sports trainings are organized for girls also in the New Abhijan Club with which I am associated and now girls too play football and cricket in the field which was never seen earlier,” says Shaw. Chandan Nagar in Rajasthan has been motivated to protest against early marriage and its impact on girls’ education. Both he and his sister Deepa had been married when they were minors, and after joining the campaign Chandan persuaded his parents to let Deepa stay at home and study as long as she wanted rather than sending her to her in-laws. “I also made them agree to postpone calling over my wife who is in her parents’ home and studying there. Though at the time I had not protested against the norm of early marriage, after joining the campaign I realised I should withstand the family pressure to make the girls stop their education,” shared Chandan. Samanta Saathis who completed a year’s training under the campaign received certificates as encouragement during the adhiveshans.

The campaign is working to transform gender discriminatory social norms through engaging male youth as equal partners for gender justice. It is continuing into its third year, being rolled out in 87 districts of eight states of India. A pool of 100 male mentors trained on issues of gender and masculinities have been actively engaging with 10,000 male change agents. Each mentor has been working with 100 change agents in his community, helping them to change norms at their individual level and also encouraging them to take community actions. 

During the 16 Days of Activism period in 2019 the Samanta Saathis and the campaign’s partner organisations joined in carrying out hundreds of events promoting gender rights and the role of men and boys on the issue. A series of posters called ‘Men Are Changing’ showcasing the work of selected Samanta Saathis has also been produced and widely disseminated. A campaign ‘Bystander No More’ was launched in response to horrific incidents of violence against women that took place in November-December 2019. 

(Upcoming Event) Conference on CEFM -Child Early and Forced Marriages

Deepening the Dialogue: Strategies for Working with Men and Boys for Prevention of Child Early and Forced Marriages

Dates – October or November 2020
Venue – Islamabad, Pakistan

Hosts:
Shirakat – Partnership for Development
MenEngage Alliance South Asia
MenEngage Alliance, Pakistan
Gender Studies Department, University of Punjab (Confirmed)
Allama Iqbal Open University, Islamabad, Gender Studies Departments of Universities in South Asia (to be confirmed)

Organisers and Sponsors
Global MenEngage Alliance; MenEngage Alliance South Asia; MenEngage Alliance Pakistan
(Below are possibilities, more need to be identified and confirmed)
South Asian Regional Foundations and Donors
IPPF, SAARC Fund, DFID, USAID, Ford, MacArthur, Packard, OSF, ??
UNFPA, UNWomen, UNICEF, UNDP, ILO, OHCHR

From India, Nepal, Bangladesh, Afghanistan, Maldives, Sri Lanka and Pakistan:Ministries of Women’s Development; Ministries of Human Rights; Ministries of Education, Health and other relevant Ministries; Departments of Women’s Development, National Commission on Human Rights, Women’s Parliamentary Caucuses; Youth Groups; CSOs; Media; Creative Artists; Council of Islamic Ideology, Pakistan

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Concept Note – South Asian Conference on Early and Forced Marriages